Hypnotherapy & Counselling for Confidence & Self Esteem

CONFIDENCE & self esteem

"Confidence" comes from the Latin fidere, "to trust." To be self-confident is to trust in oneself, and, in particular, in one’s ability or aptitude to engage successfully or at least adequately with the world. Confidence can be viewed as a state of mind. Often, we can change the view that we have of ourselves in an instant, from feeling elated and confident one minute to feeling shy and withdrawn the next. When we feel confident, we accept ourselves and believe in our abilities. When we don't feel confident, we can become stressed, anxious, unfulfilled and ultimately, unhappy.

Not having high levels of self-confidence is something many of us can experience in our lives and can be a result of many factors such as fear of the unknown, low self-esteem and fear of other people's perceptions of us. This lack of confidence can hold us back from developing both personally and professionally. It can shape how we feel about the world around us. But as it is a state of mind, it means it’s not fixed, it’s changeable.  With the right help it can change quickly and for the rest of your life.

WHAT CAUSES LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE?

It used to be believed that both self-esteem and self-confidence are formed by past experiences. Whilst this can sometimes be the case, what we know now is it is more likely to be attributable to our thinking styles and our perceptions of our place in the world. A belief system if you will.

Throughout life we receive a lot of positive and negative messages. How we process these can shape how we feel about ourselves on a day to day basis. This feedback can come from our peers, our family and even the media. Sadly, depending on how we process our experiences, we can either be filled with confidence or we can feel low and lacking in confidence. To this effect, two individuals can process the exact same experience in two totally different ways. Either positive or negative.

Trauma too can have a significant impact on our self-esteem and self-confidence. Traumatic experiences can diminish our feelings of self-worth and our sense of trust.

Ultimately, self-esteem presents itself on a scale. Some have an abundance, while others might struggle in certain situations. But people with low self-esteem tend to feel a constant level of low self-worth. They’re likely to experience any, several or all of the following feelings:

·         Being overly sensitive to criticism
·         Feeling low or depressed
·         Lack of motivation
·         Lacking assertiveness
·         Self-talk can be negative or overly critical
·         Feeling like their life’s a failure

HOW CAN HYPNOSIS HELP WITH CONFIDENCE

IIf you have ever felt the immediate effect of another person’s words to “bring you down” or lift your spirits, you will know how quickly feelings can shift. 

Hypnosis can give you the power to make that shift in perspective consciously. Seeing yourself from a different point of view, can bring change to your mind, almost immediately. It can help alter belief systems and it can train your mind to process the positive events in your life. Training yourself to focus on the positive, goes a long way to building your positive self-esteem. Hypnosis can give you the ability to shift your perspective almost immediately.

Will hypnosis change my personality?

Hypnotherapy has the power to tap into your subconscious to bring out traits you already have. Think of a child. As children we are born with limitless confidence. We have only two fears when we are born, loud noises and falling, and we see the limitless possibilities of the world we are born into. It’s our experiences, or rather the way we process those experiences that shape how we feel about ourselves and shape our personalities. Hypnosis can only enhance your personality it cannot change it.

Symptoms of a Lack of Self-Confidence:

·         A fear of failure
·         Fear of other people's opinions
·         Fear of criticism
·         Assuming others are better than oneself
·         Avoiding social gatherings and events
·         Giving reasons for your actions
·         Responding harshly to criticism
·         Seeking people's approval
·         Judging yourself by what other people say
·         Inability to take decisions for oneself
·         Panicking and becoming overwhelmed by life decisions

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM?

Self-confidence and self-esteem do not always go hand in hand. It is possible to be highly self-confident and yet to have overwhelmingly low self-esteem. This is the case, for example, with many performers and celebrities, who can perform before an audience of thousands but then harm themselves with alcohol or drugs when not performing.

"Esteem" is derived from the Latin aestimare, meaning "to appraise, value, rate, weigh, estimate," and self-esteem is our reasoning and, above all, emotional assessment of our own worth. More than that, it is the belief system through which we think, feel, and act, and reflects and determines our relation to ourselves, to others, and to the world as we see it.